I'm 25 years old, and when I look back on the past, let's say 10 years of my life....I realize a great deal of time has been spent thinking about men (or, I should say..BOYS). In high school, a boy was pretty much the reason why I wanted to go to school every morning, even with just 80 some people in my entire high school (yes I know, GASP, but that's another story for another day). In high school, about 80% of my girlfriends' conversations revolved around the boys we liked. Looking back, there were so many moments I could have enjoyed so much more if I wasn't so focused on what my crush was doing, who he was talking to, or If my enormous bangs were still in place (because my lush bangs were EXACTLY what got me all the guys in high school, of course).
As my friends and I grew older and attempted adult relationships it seemed that the tears shed and the vulnerability toward men increased. Instead of things becoming easier it appeared that they were becoming even more complicated with each passing year. In the recent years I have spent time questioning why things are the way they are and why the same recurring patterns seem to exist in male/female relationships. I've also contemplated why so many women seem to face the same conflicts in their quest for a man, whether it is the desire for romance, a steady relationship, or simple companionship. Therefore, in honor of my past and present contemplations, and with the speculation that these issues will arise in years to come, I've decided to start a blog.
The purpose of this blog is to initiate conversations about relationships, love, sex and being a woman in this decade. ALL perspectives are appreciated and desired. This blog is open to single women, married women, women in relationships, and everything else in between! I plan to spent time highlighting certain books and movies, my thoughts about relationships and ask questions to see what YOU think about relationships in hopes that you will share similar experiences. I want to create a dialogue that allows females to discuss openly and freely about the things they are dealing with in regard to men and relationships.
This is not about male-bashing or feminism. It is about learning to accept ourselves as women, biologically and mentally, and learning how to deal with life as a woman in the post-modern world. This blog is about discussing and learning from our interactions with men and taking control of how we want to be perceived. And hey, if you're a guy and you'd like to follow you are completely welcome! Of course, be aware to approach with caution ;)
So why, IT’S UP TO US! as the title, you ask? Well even if you didn't ask, this is a phrase that I have found myself saying out loud on many occasions, whether it be to myself, my friends or in general to the sky with my fist in the air (ITS UP TO US!!!!!). I have found that in my relationship experience, whether it is positive or negative, it has always been up to me to take responsibility for my own actions, desires and thoughts. I have placed on myself the responsibility of knowing when I risk the possibility of getting hurt, or when I know I am doing something that could damage my self-esteem. In the end, we are responsible for our own actions and it is up to us (!) to get to know ourselves and what we can handle. Furthermore, I think it is very important for women to understand who men are, how they think and stop trying to make them be like us, and think like us! Therefore it is "UP TO US" to understand, accept and act accordingly.
So, my question is, are you up to the challenge?
