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Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Rules for Better Living

Happy Tuesday, readers! I'm going to contribute to the vast number of self-help books out there about how to be happier and live a better life by offering my own personal list. These are a compilation of my own thoughts, things I've read and quotes I've come across in my 27 years of living. If you have an addition, feel free to comment below!

Allow yourself to make mistakes. I've known this is important my whole life, yet I still beat myself up when I mess up. Be kind to yourself people! Cut yourself some slack every now and then. If things were perfect all the time, we wouldn't know what true perfection was.

Don't ever underestimate the power of time when it comes to pain. When sadness, loss or rejection occur in life, I always remind myself of the fact that human beings are wired to adapt. It may feel as if what you're feeling in the moment is unbearable, but it doesn't mean its permanent.

A life without balance is not a life worth living. I always know when I don't have enough balance of work, friends, family, school, fun in my life, because I burn out (or have an emotional breakdown, which is always fun). In my experience, there is nothing wrong with rewarding hard work with a well deserved vacation, or after spending hours on a paper, taking a moment to spend with someone you care about. Geez, I'm like a Hallmark card right now.

Only make time for people who make time for you. If a person isn't making the time to see you, don't waste time trying to see them. If a person isn't thinking about you, don't ruin your life by ruminating over what they're doing. Simple as that.

Know your limits. You don't have to say "Yes" to everyone and everything. It is not your responsibility to get a million things done every day. Do what you can and do your best. Constant overachieving leads to ulcers and panic attacks. Yes, I speak from experience. How do you like that for too much self-disclosure....

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Thank you Eleanor Roosevelt! She knew what's up. You can't control what others think or do, but you can control how you feel about yourself

Don't be left dancing alone to songs of the past. You can thank Tegan and Sara for this (from the song "I Won't Be Left" - listen here!). Time is moving forward, and to waste countless hours stuck on past situations and trauma will not help you in the moment. If there are things you can't get over, consider getting help! Everyone deserves a future that isn't tainted by past mistakes or pain.

Dont be afraid to feel. One of my favorite quotes from Tina Fey's book, Bossypants is:

“Some people say, 'Never let them see you cry.' I say, if you’re so mad you could just cry, then cry. It terrifies everyone.”

It's really unfortunate that displays of emotion scare other people. I'm not gonna lie, when someone starts bawling in front of me I feel a little panic sometimes too. But heck, who cares, if you want to cry, CRY. If you want to sing out, sing out, ha. Respect the emotions of others and don't be afraid to express your own.

    Those are my nuggets of inspiration for the day. So long, folks!


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